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Confidentiality and respect for other members' privacy are extremely
important within CIPEX.
DADG and
CIPEX members are expected to respect the privacy of other members. This
means that what happened at, and who attended, a play party, munch, bar
meet, or other CIPEX function stays there. Even if you're talking
with another DADG or CIPEX member who wasn't able to attend the event, you
must respect other members' right to privacy. Do not mention them by
name, do not describe them. Of course you have the right to discuss
what you did while at a CIPEX function but if it involves others;
unless you have their permission, you should only mention them in
general terms such as "a female dominant I know.."
If you are not sure how to address someone out in public, ASK! There
may be times when you "run into" someone you know from the group in a
vanilla setting. If you do not know them well enough to know their real
first name, err on the side of caution and do not approach them,
especially if they are with family. You can always speak with them at
the next munch to find out how they would like you to handle the
situation in the future.
Not everyone is able to be out in their community, workplace, or even
within their family. The reasons some stay closeted are: children,
family members who can't or won't understand, or ethics and moral
behavior clauses at work. Being outed, either accidentally or
intentionally, can have a devastating effect; not only on the closeted
person's life but on their family's lives as well.
For this reason, any member found to be outing other members will be
banned from play parties and/or all group functions. There will be no
further warnings. THIS is the warning. Each DADG member will
receive a copy of the confidentiality and respect statement upon joining
the group and once monthly in an e-mail to the DADG list as a
refresher; ignorance will not be an excuse.
The expectation of respecting members' privacy also extends to private
e-mail. One should ask on the e-mail list if it is okay to privately
e-mail another member and then proceed to private e-mail if
permission is granted. All complaints of e-mail harassment can be sent
to the List Master, Richard, or to a CIPEX board member, who will
then follow up with the rest of the CIPEX board and the List
Master. Any member found to be harassing other members by private
e-mail will be banned from the e-mail list. |